The Rose

I lost my right eye as a child, and was teased unmercifully until I learned what I am about to share with you. You see children would ask me, “What is wrong with your eye?” Being stubborn and ashamed, I replied, “NOTHING”. They knew that was a lie, and would attempt to force the truth out of me. Sometimes they joined forces with friends to bully me into telling the truth. I was very stubborn, and refused to tell. I was like a brick wall.

I learned, through a very loving and caring church, not to ignore or deny the fact that I am blind in one eye… to simply tell the truth. There is a law of Cause and Effect. So when asked, “What is wrong with your eye?”, (no longer ashamed or frightened) I replied, “I am blind in one eye”. It works like a psychological judo.  I wonder if that is what Jesus meant when he said “turn the other cheek” because the children simply said “Oh”. The fight was gone when I stopped being the brick wall, passive or submissive, but staying fluid, and capitalizing on opportunities… giving myself the time to see the doorway in the brick wall.

“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass… it is about learning how to dance in the rain!”

It is true I am blind in one eye, but I have had the opportunity to give workships, and share my transformation, resulting from simple truths, to other young people, thus passing on the transformation others taught me. To me that is what the Bible means when the disciples asked Jesus, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” Jesus answered, “Neither he nor his parents sinned; it is so that the words of God might be made visible through him (John 9). Every challenge we undertake is an opportunity to dance in the rain.

I know of a lady who was given a seriously mentally challenged child to tutor. She was honest with him, and told him of his mental handicap. She said that he would have to work harder than other children, but that he also could accomplish what ever he put his mind to. Knowing the truth caused him to work extra hard. When he became of age he passed the college entrance exam with flying colors. After entering his college classes, the professors came to her saying, “He is mentally handicapped”. She replied, “Yes?”. The young man did just fine in college, and by over coming his challenge, inspired others.

“When we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that is present… we experience heaven on earth.”

Many people take this to mean denial. I often hear, “If we think on the negative, we give it power”. So, fearfully, they look the other way or refuse to acknowledge the obvious. When we are on a road trip, and pull out a map to find our way, we must first know our starting point before we can focus on a destination. If I call you for directions to your house, you need to know my location before you can give me proper directions. I do not deny that I am blind in one eye, and at times it does require my focus (driving and caring for it as examples). I just do not see it as a bad or shameful thing anymore.  Used properly, it is a blessing.

By seeing beauty and opportunity in an apparent weakness, the tutor mentioned above helped the mentally challenged child go far beyond what others could have imagined. The alcoholic can not experience God’s blessings if he is in denial either. However, if we get stuck in past pain or self pity, we can not experience the “Heaven On Earth” God has already created for us. Forgiving is not about forgetting, it is about letting go of the pain.

Sometimes each of us is like the rose: open and expressing the God given beauty within, and sometimes like the rose bud: closed, and not expressing that inner beauty. But it is always there.

What is happening today in your life, in this country, and around the world is an opportunity to “Glorify God”. You are His Hands. So take up the challenge and dance in the rain.

avatar Roma Cox (3 Posts)

Roma say she is blessed to be able to do the things she loves most. She is a public and private tutor, gives workshops for parent/ educators, is a published author, and has developed some excellent game type curriculum. Visit her website at:

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