Building a House – Raising a Child
When building a house here in northern Wisconsin, many people start with a cement block foundation. When my husband and I built our house this is how we started as well. In the process of putting in the foundation, my husband handled and placed every single one of those cement blocks himself. Each block was exactly the same and there were hundreds of them to be laid. It was hard work that had to be repeated over and over again. It seemed to take an extremely long time and each day showed painfully little progress. But without the tedious work that went into the foundation, there could be no beautiful house to enjoy today. A solid foundation is essential in order to build something of lasting value.
Raising children is much like building a house. We have to lay down the solid foundation of discipline, self control, honor, respect, and good attitudes. It takes a long time and you often need to repeat the same things over and over again. When a child is 3, 8, 10, 15, even 18 years old, you can’t expect to open the door of the completed house, look in and see all the beautiful furnishings. You’re still working on the foundation! In reality, ages 18, 21, or (gasp!) 25 may even be a little bit early to expect the house to be fully finished & furnished. Yes, the foundations should be laid by then, but the framework is still in the process of going up and it will be awhile yet before the house is finished and furnished. Think about your own life – when were you truly a “responsible adult”? When was your “house” completed and fully furnished with never a need for upkeep or repair?
Parents, please don’t expect your children to be mature “finished products” in the foundation-building years. Yes, we need to train them and call them up to responsibility, good attitudes and servanthood. However, when they fail, don’t be surprised. When you have to tell them the same thing over and over again (those tedious foundation blocks to be laid) don’t get discouraged. Eventually, with diligence and patience, you will lay the solid foundation for their mature adult life and you’ll be able to open the door to their “house”, walk in, sit down and finally – relax.
Charmaine Wistad has successfully homeschooled her own two children from pre-school through high school. Now she is turning her attention toward helping other homeschool moms. Through personal coaching, Charmaine helps homeschooling moms thrive… not just survive! Visit her website to try a complimentary no-obligation telephone coaching session.